The Context in Validation

It seems there is always a hidden intention within us – something to gain when giving ourselves totally and emotionally to others. Most people expect to be loved back in exactly the same amount they themselves offered their love. It is no news that most of the problems in any relationship begin when one party feels cheated – cheated in the sense that their commitment and/or emotions are not being reciprocated in equal quantity and magnitude. It is this need to get back exactly what we give in equal amount that elicits the whole lot of unresolved feelings of dissatisfaction.

Every once in a while humans hunger for the need for validation; among peers, family and every other community we find ourselves – it is also fact that majority of people love to play victim by reflecting the victim psyche outwardly instead of inwardly. It is imperative at this point, that in developing confidence, we may gain the ability to give ourselves fully without reason for reciprocation.
Speaking on confidence – it is often and very easily mistaken for arrogance or in some cases conceit. However, is it a trait capable of making most people completely sure about themselves and absolutely averse to validation?
While validation can be a good source of motivation in a work setting or among people who share the same values, the characteristic trait of boldness can come in handy. Now most people feel these two terms mean the same thing in context, but confidence is really quite different from boldness in a literal sense; whilst boldness resonates outwards, confidence resonates inwards, and neither one is derivative of the other – meaning a person could have a show of confidence and not really be bold, or one can appear bold and not really feel confident inside; it is all very relative.

Truthfully speaking, few people are born bold. A lot of people have learned to practice, develop and cultivate it because there comes a time when there is need for it. Confidence on the other hand is usually a belief system in us regarding our ability and that of those around us; sometimes it is grossly inflated, and at other times can be sold short.
Boldness is the drive that gets people doing things they never imagined, starting that relationship they never thought possible, and going farther than initially planned. Confidence is what keeps it all on track.
The problems created by an audacious and bold move can usually be disguised, even remedied, by some amount of confidence. But whatever the case, the question remains; Where does validation stand? Is it a necessity in gaining confidence or a necessary prerequisite in displaying boldness.