Society And Relationships

We might as well admit it, we want people to like us. Quite a number of times i have heard someone say, "I don't care if they like me or not." The problem with that statement is, anytime you hear someone say it, just put it down as a fact that he/she might not exactly be telling the truth.
The psychologist, Williams Jazes said, "One of the deepest drives of human nature is the desire to be appreciated." This longing to be held in esteem, to be a sought-after person, is fundamental in us." There is however another face to this coin in popularity; by deliberately striving and working too hard in an attempt to being liked or becoming popular, the chances are you will never attain it. In other words, to be a master in the art of warming up to others, you must be artless: never should you make it so obvious as this will only push people further away from you. One important thing one must also note is that despite your effort at impressing others, not everyone will be impressed. There's no possible way to get everybody on your side, even Jesus experienced this after feeding five thousand men, some of wish i bet were most certainly among those who led him to his death on the cross.
Inter-personal relationships between humans is one of the more complex scientific postulates, even the issue of creation pitting biological evolution against God's Creation of humans is no match for it. Yes, one can never fully understand human behaviour. Psychologists who pride themselves on being knowledgeable in human relations never use the exact same method of approach on two different people or situations. We are by nature a difficult and complex species but this does not limit us in any way, because if you are a 'difficult' person by nature, shy and retiring or even unsociable, you can make yourself into one who enjoys an easy, normal, natural, and a pleasing relationship with others.
To be liked is of profounder importance than mere ego satisfaction, and as necessary as that is to one's success in life, normal and satisfactory personal relations are even more important; without it, your climb to achieving your goals and dreams will just be that, mere dreams. The feeling of not being wanted or needed is one of the more devastating of all human emotions, though acknowledging this fact is quite difficult, it is the truth. In my opinion, this need to feel among the societal pack, is one reason why most people act in a manner they themselves don't enjoy, but which they often employ only because of their desire to have people like them. Everywhere i go i see people putting up an act by going to extremes in their dressing, manner of speech, hairstyle, and so on.
If you are one of those who secretly feel the need to becoming popular or liked by others, my best advice for you is this; be yourself, but this doesn't mean one should always act in their own self-interests. Whether we like it or not, we are definitely going to need someone to help us sometime and if you make the mistake of thinking this someone will be a friend or family member, then you are in for a surprise. The best assistance you can ever receive is usually from someone you never thought would come through for you. Do not build fortresses around yourself, isolation is dangerous.

Be convinced that there are no persons so insignificant and inconsiderable, but may some time or another, have it in their power to be of use to you; which they certainly will not if you have once shown them contempt. Wrongs are often forgiven but contempt never is. Our pride remembers it forever, (LORD CHESTERFIELD, 1694-1773).