Your Own, Your Answer, Your Power!

Ever felt the impulse to do something extraordinary, something different, something worth admiration from people? Yeah I guess we have being there at some point. It may sometimes turn out like we expect, other times we may find ourselves in a situation where we ask ourselves the question, 'What on earth am I doing here or why am I doing this?'.
There is always some instinct in us to be better. Better in the eyes of our friends, families, co-workers and basically with every person we share a little bit of our lives with. Unless you're a psychopath with clinically proven and psychologically valid social issues, everyone of us aims to be better in some way if we can help it. Now does this mean it actually gets better for a lot of people? The answer is no! Not because the individual gave up trying, but because they must have encountered another person(s) who for some reason consistently brings out the worst in them.
I have read some books, articles and so-called 'self-help' guides on how to deal with people who bring out the worst in us, and quite surprisingly, the consensus solution almost always involves staying away. Yeah, staying away from those who remind us that we are basically a higher form or species of animal. Do I agree with this? Not really, and I would love to disprove this theory of moving away from negative energy, but seeing as I don't want to be the guy who thinks he knows too much, I'll just beg to differ. I'm sure whoever came up with that solution spent a lot of his/her time thinking the sh!/t up.
With a lot of people in print, media, the internet, and in reality, acting like they are an encyclopedia of answers, it is hard to tell whom is really practicing what they preach. The truth for all intents and purposes will sound very realistic and true to itself, but so also will a lie. What I am trying to say is, if the lie gives us an idea or a suitable explanation for a problem, it is quite difficult to be objective without attaching sentiments. As long as a lie solves some perceived problem of ours, we will adhere to it like it came out of the mouth of God himself.
So we got to that point where we wanted to be different and extraordinary, and we started out by getting something done in the right direction. We continued, basking in the euphoria of it until a day came when we didn't know what or why we were doing what we do. We realized that maybe we just found ourselves on this-road-to-extraordinary because we wanted to get away from something or someone and prove to them we could be better. Was it a good idea looking back at it? We ask ourselves. The answer might be maybe or maybe not, depending on how well we are doing at that moment of self-awareness.
At this point, we start depending on the admiration of others to fuel our desire to be different. In other words, the original purpose of our predisposition to greatness disappears and is replaced by the need to feel appreciated. This need becomes our motivation, which is not totally a bad thing, but if by no fault of ours we encounter those whose sole job is to kill our vibe, what happens? Are we to face them, or are we to ignore it and move away from this developing negative energy?
This is where most people cook up the turn-around-walk-away-route, and if I am right, this hardly ever solves anything; instead it just makes one unprepared for the next wave of negative emotions coming around the corner.
There will always be evil people around us, and I call them evil because, even if they don't know it themselves, anyone who derives pleasure seeing the misery and sadness in others, definitely has a dark spirit working in them. And please, for the love of God, never turn your back on people like this. Very little good comes by staying away from those who drain the extraordinary in us, that just feeds their power; and unless this is what you want, the offensive is a lot better choice.

Video clip: Sojay on a cover for Miguel's 'Adorn'

So Sojay and I lived in the same hostel complex for a short while back in the university, quite a calm dude with a good voice. He is now an upcoming artiste signed to Eldee's record label, Trybe Records. Okay enough famzing already, here is the cover for Miguel's 'Adorn', performed by Sojay. Have a beautiful weekend...